John and Elizabeth Edwards: A Dream To Live For


Some people measure how much they're loved by what that person gives up for them. Others think that if they love someone, they should make that person give up as little of what they truly care for as possible.

Personal attacks against John and Elizabeth Edwards based on Elizabeth's cancer consistently underestimate the depth of the couple's love, commitment, and shared vision.

All indications are that both John and Elizabeth want Edwards to be President. It's a shared dream, not something either dragged the other into. She wants to help accomplish one last great thing for her husband whom she loves before she dies. I don't see how he could unilaterally decide to destroy that chance, or at least the knowledge that they gave it their best shot, for her, especially when there is no indication, none, that she wants him to.

John Edwards can't save his wife's life. He can try to make her dream come true before she dies. And Elizabeth knows she may not be with Edwards for the rest of his life, no matter how much she wants to. But before she dies she can help a dream come true for the one she loves.

And if he's president when she dies, he'll do the best job as president he can as well--because to do less would be to dishonor her memory.


Ian Welsh January 7, 2008 - 9:37am
( categories: USA: Campaign 2008 )

While I like the tone of the post, I believe that the underlying assumption that Elizabeth Edwards is at an end-of-life stage in her illness, and that the Edwards' actions about going forward for a presidential bid are responding to that is not valid.

What Elizabeth has shared about her breast cancer is that it's being treated more as a chronic illlness. She has no outward signs of being terminally ill, which often includes muscle wasting, significant weight loss, edema, and cachexia.

At any rate, very few of us know exactly when our deaths will occur, and in general, we do not make future plans using our predicted times of death as primary drivers.

However, I do admire the Edwards for speaking so overtly about end-of-life issues.

This is an interesting post. Thank you for writing it.

(There are many resources for discussing the ethics about end-of-life care, family issues, and life planning in the oncology healthcare literature and in the nursing research literature, which is generally how I approach this issue anecdotally.)

Healthy Skeptic January 7, 2008 - 11:48am

They already lost a son. I think they've both had the time to deal with the idea of death, unlike many Americans in their mood-altering, drug-induced stupor. If anything, I think that makes them better humans in any respect.

creativelcro January 7, 2008 - 12:23pm

and a reminder that the Edwardses are, neither of them, prepacked political products. They are real, regular -- and yet extraordinary -- human beings.

LindaR January 7, 2008 - 5:10pm

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