Wedding Ring Debate ?

Q: Well, I know most of you will probably tell me to "relax," but this really bothers me :-) Ever since I was old enough to know the meaning & symbolism behind a wedding band, I've envisioned gold bands. To me, it's kind of an unspoken rule...wedding bands must be gold! Well, FH has decided that he wants silver. He has a watch that is silver & he just doesn't want to part with (but that's another story!!). He thinks we should just get mine gold & his silver, but I'm still frowning at this idea. My poor old heart's broken :-( at the thought that we wouldn't have the "same" ring. Are any of you getting mis-matched bands? Any thoughts or ideas??

A:There are some really gorgeous wedding bands that are gold with silver designs in them. What about that? That way, you have the gold band and he has the silver to tie in with his watch? Or what about white gold? Sorry I can't be of more help! It's easy to think that our own experience is universal! My parents -- married in 1968, probably about the same generation as your parents -- don't have matching wedding bands. My mom's wedding band came in a set with her engagement ring, and, unlike my dad's ring, is not a plan gold band. At least he's willing to wear a ring. FH and I discussed rings and he said that he probably wouldn't

wear one, especially at work because he's afraid of getting it caught on something..I gave up on fighting about it and told him that he'll still get one for the ceremony and ring shot picture. So I will not be spending anything more than I have to and my thought on is it maybe some day he'll decide he wants to wear but I will not be holding my breath. As long as I know he loves me and is willing to spend the rest of his life with me that's all that matters to me. BTW he spent over $100 on a ring that he thought was really cool and he wanted to wear but after a week he couldn't stand the feeling of it on his hand and it is now sitting ontop of his dresser.