Woman's Wedding Ring Choices ?
Q: For the wedding ring (not the engagement ring), which do women
prefer and find that they like more... a gold band or a diamond
wrap? My fiance and I are picking out wedding rings in a few
weeks, and I have had my eye on a sapphire diamond wrap, but
I notice that more women wear a gold band instead. My cousin
is actually getting both (but I think that is a little extravagant).
My fiance says that either looks good to him. So I was curious..
what is the preference between the two?
A:All I know from my own background is that in Jewish weddings, it's necessary to have a ring with no stone in it for the ring to be, er, kosher. No one has ever explained to me why this is... Anyway, when my folks got married, the best man handed over his own wedding band for the ceremony, and my mother put on her "real" wedding band (a diamond wrap) at the reception. The explanation I was given is that the ring should be valued because of its symbolic meaning, and not as a piece of jewelry (with precious gems to increase its value). By dismond wrap do you mean diamonds just on top, or all the way around? I hear the ones just on top have a tendency to turn around. On the other hand the ones all around can catch on things, pinch, and get grimy. Ask yourself, what is most compatible with your tastes and your lifestyle? If you're the sort who works with your hands, bakes homemade bread alot, scrabbles over rocks, etc, then a simpler ring (that's easier to care for, and less to worry about) might be better for you. On the other hand, if you don't do much dirty-work with your hands, and prefer more sparkle, then a wrap might be more to your liking. Bands are relatively inexpensive, so you might consider getting two wedding bands. I have a plain gold comfortfit band that I wear sometimes (often on my right hand, in fact) If I'm going to be mucking about with my hands. I also have a second band that is a set with my engagement ring, which I I wear when I dress up. (My husband's wedding ring is a plain gold comfortfit band that matches mine. Both his and my comfortfit are inscribed. My other band is not.) Did your mother also follow the tradition of putting the wedding band on the forefinger of the *right* hand? As I said in previous post, I have two bands, one is plain gold and one is a set with my engagement ring. For the wedding I wore the set on my left hand. When we exchanged rings we followed tradition and each placed the other's band on his/her right forefinger. (Not all the way up, they don't fit past the first knuckle.) Now he wears his band on the usual left ringfinger, and mine moves back and forth between left and right ringfingers. (The set only fits on the left ringfinger, as it is quite a bit tighter than the band. It gets worn only occasionally.)