We Got Our Rings!

Q: If I hadn't known they would be different ratios, then maybe there was a mix up at the store? Maybe your order was placed incorrectly? Sounds like that's not probable- since you said it bothered you when trying them on... Lots of couples have different wedding rings (that is, the rings don't match in style or ratio), so I don't think you're breaking etiquette in that way. The fact that you've been wearing them before your wedding might ruffle a few feathers, but so what?

A: We didn't order them. We were wandering around the mall, went in, looked at them, tried them on, they fit perfectly, they were much cheaper than others, etc. Then I noticed that they were different. No scamming or mix-ups involved. In fact, when I pointed out the difference to the salesman, saying it made me feel a little funny, since we wanted them to match, he knocked I think $10 off. I wasn't asking for money, just saying we might rather special order...but oh well... So no, I was fully aware from the beginning. Oh, I'm not concerned about breaking etiquette. And the way I figure it, people aren't supposed to have sex before marriage, but a lot do (including me); it's "traditional" for the groom to not see the bride in her wedding dress before the ceremony, but some do (my fiance almost definitely will); and I suppose there's some superstition about not wearing your wedding ring before it's put on at the ceremony, but I'd imagine almost everyone at least tries it on (I wore it a whole weekend). That's okay with me if I don't follow every "rule" in the book. :-) Well, I don't mean to be the pooper here -- but I think it needs to be said... The reason the 10 karat gold ring was "much cheaper" than the others is because it *is* cheaper than the others. It's something to think about if you do decide to change your mind. 10 karat gold is the kind you can expect to find in a children's birthstone ring or your average non-keepsake items from cheaper jewelry stores. I have a mickey mouse ring from Disneyland in 10 karat that I bought in 8th grade - it bends and isn't really fine jewelry quality. They really don't do much in the way of 10 karat wedding bands in this part of the country.

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