Wedding Ring Man Tungsten?

Q: I'm a man, Fleischman. We are born with an image of woman imprinted on our psyches. We spend our whole lives searching for the embodiment of that female archetype. And there she sits! In the flesh! You tell me what man could resist the fantasy of having her as his wife?

A:What are man and woman if not members of two very different and warring tribes? Yet decade after decade, century after century, they attempt in marriage to reconcile and forge a union. Why? I don't know. Biological imperative? Divine law? Or just a desire to connect to that mysterious other? In any case, it's always struck me as a hopeful thing. (Bernard on marriage) Where are your shoes? You think I didn't try?! It was torture for me! (Joel and Adam before the wedding) You must have suspected something. All the Christmas gifts my father sends. Light bulbs, automobile parts, cutlery. What do they all have in common? How should I know? Tungsten. My father mines tungsten ore. He is tungsten ore. Where do you think all the money for the trips come from? China, Switzerland, Senegal? You said that was from our frequent flier mileage! And you believed me? (Eve and Adam) Marriage. It's a hard term to define. Especially for me--I've ducked it like root canal. Still there's no denying the fact that marriage ranks right up there with birth and death as one of the three biggies in the human safari. It's the only one though that we'll celebrate with a conscious awareness. Very few of you remember your arrival and even fewer of you will attend your own funeral. You pick a society, any society, Zuni, Nudembo, Pennsylvania Dutch. What's the one thing they all have in common? Marriage. It's like a cultural hand-rail. It links folks to the past and guides them to the future. That's not all though. Marriage is the union of disparate elements. Male and female. Yin and yang. Proton and electron. What are we talking about here? Nothing less than the very tension that binds the universe. You see, when we look at marriage, people, we're are looking at creation itself. "I am the sky," says the Hindu bridegroom to the bride. "You are the earth. We are sky and earth united.... You are my husband. You are my wife. My feet shall run because of you. My feet shall dance because of you. My heart shall beat because of you. My eyes see because of you. My mind think because of you and I shall love because of you. Now are you guys cool with that? Maybe Adam was, in his own way, showing the woman he loved respect. Somethong that he woulden't pay anyone else. Love is more than an emotion, it is action.

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