Ring Finger ?

Q: Now divorced, I find myself wondering how many people will look at my left ring finger to see if I am wearing a ring or not in order to judge whether or not I am in a relationship or married. The ring finger . . . why do people always check it? A ring means nothing, it's what you believe in your heart and soul that determines whether or not you are taken or available. I know it's one way to tell if someone is married, but I have also heard that a person wearing a wedding ring can also be more of a challenge. Talk to me - people! Give your thoughts on judging someone by whether or not they are wearing a ring on the left ring finger. Women - do you find yourself wearing or not wearing a ring on this finger something you think about? I actually had a guy tell me he thought I was married because I wore a ring on that finger (it wasn't even a wedding ring!) What is it with the ring thing?

A:Now that divorced, I no longer wear a ring on my ring finger. People check, but a lot of people I know do not exchange rings, so it is no a reliable source to find out if someone is married or not. Of course, if I ever remarry I will wear a wedding ring because it symbolizes something special. Odd though how after wearing a wedding ring for nearly twenty years, the distinct impression still remains after a few months of wearing it. Feel self conscious about it, like those cads one hears about that slips his ring into his pocket to make the appearance of being single. Coming to think of it now as just another one of lifes little scars. I was married for almost 26 years, and it took my ring finger almost nine months after separation for the impression of the ring to completely disappear! I felt naked at first without my wedding ring on. Now, I wear my mom's gold band that she got from my dad on my right hand ring finger. It feels good, it's pretty and it symbolizes something that means so much more to me than my s2bx. Besides, if I feel like I don't want to be approached I slip it on my left hand. Not that anyone has been kicking down the doors. I never assume a person isn't married because they are not wearing a ring. About the ring on the finger.. I was married 18 years, sometimes I wore my wedding band, sometimes I couldn't stand it to be on my finger. It wasn't so other people could tell if I was married or not but, in my heart I didn't want to be married to this man. So I divorced him.... and the last thing I wanted was a bunch of men checking out my finger to see if I was married. Now I wear a gold band with diamonds and my mothers engagement ring. When people refer to my s/o as my husband I tell them I'm not married. They look at my ring and I always tell them I wear it because I don't want men to assume I'm available.

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