Jewish Wedding Ring?

Q: I was told that at mariage the ring is placed on the brid's first finger, the one next to the thumb. Could a few questions be answered. 1. This finger is said to be closest to the heart, why? 2. Why the left hand? 3. Is the ring placed on the bridgroom's first finger

A:Don't know anything about that. At a Jewish wedding ceremony, the ring is placed on the index finger (of the bride's right hand) so that the (two kosher) witnesses will be able to see it easily. The groom doesn't get a ring. Since the Jewish wedding ceremony is about acquisition, a double ring ceremony could potentially invalidate it. I think Micha means (and excuse me, Micha, if I am misunderstanding you), is that there are some men in the O world (Modern O, but O nonetheless) who do wear a wedding ring out of "egalitarian" sympathies. This ring is not "exchanged" during the chuppah, but is something the man wears after the wedding, purely as a symbol of the fact that he is married. It has nothing to do with the act of kinyan that makes the chuppah kosher. In fact, the only reason I've ever heard that a Jewish man *shouldn't* wear a ring has nothing to do with this issue of invalidating the kinyan, but rather as an issue of hukos goyim. I didn't claim the ceremony was egalitarian. I just wanted to get rid of the /needless/ sources of offense. While saying only the groom assumes responsibility in the ceremony isn't egalitarian, I wanted to avoid anyone thinking from your post that the marriage is purchasing ("acquisition" was the term that set off my post) a wife.

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