Groom Re-using Family Wedding Ring?

Q: Hello fellow-wedding planners. I've got a question I'd like to hear your comments and advice on. I learned yesterday that my Mom would let my fiancee have my late grandfather's wedding ring to give me as my ring. He wore it for 62 happy years of marriage, and I was very close to my grandparents. She indicated that she would be happy if we used it, but equally pleased if we decided that we would not. I could have the ring to keep as a family heirloom without using it as my wedding ring. Assuming we both like the style, condition, and 'feel' of the ring (I can't remember exactly what it looks like), what other points should we consider as to whether we should use this heirloom ring as a symbol of our union? Are there any traditions or superstitions surrounding a man using a family ring? Is it bad luck to "re-use" a man's wedding ring? Good luck? It seems as if I have heard of a woman's using an heirloom

A:My best friend was married last year, and they used her grandparents' wedding rings (her grandparents are both deceased). I've never heard anything about luck, good or bad, involved in using heirloom rings, but it does seem to be fairly common. It's wonderful that you have the opportunity to wear your grandfather's ring; seems like a special way to honor your relationship with your grandparents if you choose it. The only reasons I could imagine not choosing it would be (1) concerns about matching your fiancee's band (no, they don't have to match, but some people, like my own fiance, feel that they should); or (2) you and your fiancee wanted to choose rings that were all your own, as a symbol that your marriage is unique. I have never heard any superstitions about reusing an heirloom band, particularly one from a person who had a happy marriage. I think that if you like the ring, it's a great idea! if your husband-to-be is enthusiastic and the ring can be sized to fit him, i think it would be a sweet gesture for him to wear a ring that is part of your family's history, assuming the ring is symbolic of a long, happy marriage. how could that possibly be bad luck?

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