Are Elderly Women Abandoning Their Men?
Q: It's absurd to suggest that being forced to have sex is emotionally less painful than being denied. Why is it so absurd? Perhaps that is how you personally would react, but there is no reason to assume that your experience is universal. For me, neither of these is intrinsically more painful than the other. It would depend on the circumstances. If someone forced me to have sex and I perceived it as a desperate act of a man who had lost control, I would find it less emotionally painful than if someone denied me sex on The grounds that I was repulsive. And you wonder why I think "Jayne" is really a man? It seems to me that "Jayne" is projecting here about being denied sex "on the grounds that I was repulsive." It just seems that there's a very damaged man behind that persona
A: If I said that I think that drunk driving ought to taken equally seriously with armed robbery, it would not mean that I think drunk driving equals armed robbery. Obviously, they are two different things. It is a way of expressing that I think drunk driving is very serious. If it was a soldier in battle, then I would consider taking his gun away as serious as shooting at him since both acts that endanger his life. In general, however, it is not as serious. In most cases, the pain of having one's gun taken away comes nowhere near the pain of being shot. As I understand it, the pain of being refused sex as a deliberate act to punish or manipulate is similar to the pain of being raped. Therefore your analogy is incorrect. There is nothing wrong with my logic. It is possible that my understanding of the pain that other people experience is wrong because it is difficult to know what others are feeling.