Did Any Of You Ever Consider?

Q: Y'know, it's posts like this which make me think that maybe it would be soooo much better if ASED were limited (and moderated) to be a newsgroup ONLY for those for actual EDs, rather than being open to family, friends, boyfriends, husbands, concerned others, trolls, the whole bloody world......... It is difficult for those who actually do not have an ED to fully understand what someone with an ED is going through, and it is also frustrating as heck for us who ARE going through it to have to deal with posts such as this from well-meaning and concerned family members or friends. We get enough grief in our real lives....it's painful to have even more grief and guilt-trips laid upon us in our on-line lives. YES, we bloody well consider what we do to our families and friends. Occasionally, we even consider what it is that we are doing to ourselves. This doesn't lessen the pain, nor usually does it lessen the progress of the eating disorder, unfortunately. Thanks, so much, "MSTANKE," for laying yet another guilt trip on us. You are just the kind of supportive "friend" we need. Please, just go away.....

A: i think that we do think of others in the midst of your eating disorders but you can't recover for others. it's great that you supported your friends and yes, i can appreciate how much you have suffered trying to be supportive. however, your friends can't recover just b/c of how much you are suffering. i know what my disorder did to my family and friends but i literally (at that point) could not stop. i have alienated friends and family. i've scared the h*ll out of them when i've been in icu or when they've had to start planning a funeral thinking i was never coming back. the most helpful and supportive friends i have (and had) were those who realized that i was out of control, i wasn't doing it to hurt them and stood by me for me. they saw the real me through the eating disorder. guess you have to decide whether you are willing to be that person's friend even though they may die. another question you may want to consider is would you be writing in and saying the same things if your friends had cancer?? probably not.

Discuss It!

Most Popular Articles

More