Ring Pillow Alternatives?
Q: I need an idea for an alternative to a ring pillow. Since our rings are
going to be carried by our 33-year old best man I think a heart-shaped
pillow adorned with lace and ribbons is slightly inappropriate. I do want
something though, and my wedding-craft books haven't helped at all.
A:I have seen "ring boxes" advertised in one of the many bridal junk catalogues
I have received. You could make one yourself by covering a small cardboard
or wood chip box (available at craft stores) with white satin or brocade and
trimming it.
In my experience, the rings have NEVER actually been on the ring
pillow- too much chance for a loss on the way down the aise, etc. There
are usually "mock" wedding rings on the pillow with the real rings in the
BM's posession. As such, I don't think your situation is any different
from all the other times we've used a ringbearer's pillow in the weddings
we've done.
Why not skip the pillow. I seriously doubt that any of the guests will notice. I
can not think of an elegant way your BestMan can carry a pillow down the aisle. I
have shot many weddings where there was not ring bearer, or pillow.
Aside, my wife made our pillow (carried down the aisle by her seven year old
cousin). She tied the rings onto the pillow with silk ties. Yes, they were the
real rings. It worked out fine.
One of our ushers will be holding our wedding rings too,
but we still will have a ring bearer who will be carrying a
ring pillow down the aisle. The pillow will be holding two
fake gold wedding bands is all, not the actual wedding
rings. Anyway, that's just our choice, it's not a rule and
that's not what you were asking about and I have not
intention of trying to talk you into or out of anything
you have in mind for your wedding. I actually did think of
something you might like. A high school friend of mine did
this at her wedding years ago. She had a younger boy
(about jr. usher age, I recall) carry a family bible down
the aisle (he followed the BMs who were all escorted down
the aisle by an usher). Her mother had covered the Bible
in white satin with all sorts of stuff on it, like peach
satin ribbon (her wedding color) and silk flowers with
pearl beading around the edge and two lace hearts centered
on the cover in which she had embroidered their names in
one heart and their wedding date in the other, or something
like that. This was several years ago, and I don't recall
the exact artistic details, but you could alter this idea
to suit your tastes. I remember thinking it was so cool
and didn't even give a second thought to the fact that she
didn't even have a "ring bearer" in her wedding. If you
choose to do this and the RB is a young boy, you might want
to use a lighter Bible than was her family Bible. A 2- or
3- year old child might have a difficult time carrying
something as heavy as her 100 year-old large (and heavy)
heirloom Bible. The Precious Moments Bible would be light
enough, and even uncovered it would be very cute to have a
young child carry it down the aisle in place of a satin
ring pillow. But I still think there isn't anything wrong
with a ring pillow in your case, since few people I've seen
at weddings recently have the real wedding rings attached
to the pillow anyway. Oh, and something we are still
considering for our wedding is having my fiance's sister