Bad Looks & Lack Of Sex Root Causes Of Depression?
Q: Could most depressions, let's say 70%, be caused by lack of intimacy, sex,
and love, due to lack of good looks? I mean, deep down inside, don't most
people want to feel sexually attractive? They say if you work hard enough
and believe in yourself you can attain anything you want in this world. But
a true reality check shows that it is so unlikely, and so due to random
chance, that you cannot have the person you dream of. Hence, you may spend a
large amount of time alone, even without many friends if you don't fit in by
looking good, or normal. I have watched many good looking males and females
over time. Even though some may not be -happy-, they are at least whole in
the knowledge that they will have partners soon. This thereby decreases
their ability to become depressed.
A:I have been to many nightclubs and singles bars and have watched good looking
women turn down man after man. They know they look good. They also are the
life of the party. Sex, intimacy, and love are the most fundamental emotions
to our being. Any small change in any of these emotions due to wanting, or
needing can set off a chain of reactions in other modes of being.
In the end, I think most of us end up by settling with another person who is
less than qualified to be called our dream mate. Over time, this causes deep
tensions that are not always apparent on the surface.
In short, looking good can get you the following...
* Friends...many.
* Activites...many.
* Money...much.
* Lovers...many potentials.
* Intimacy...much.
* Love...desired by many.
* Depression...what are you kidding?
Bad looks get you...
* Few friends. * Few activities...but this can depend on you although if you
do pursue activites it is unlikley they will be with other beautiful people.
* Money...You can earn lots of money being ugly, but you will probably not
have as many friends or lovers as a beautiful person. * Lovers...few, if at
all. * Intimacy...desired much, but no one wants to be intimate with an ugly
person. * Love...Well, you can always -love- an ugly person. *
Depression...lots and lots.
Of course, all of this depends on your view of yourself too, and your
personality. I have seen many beautiful people who had ugly personalities.
If you think you are ugly, you just might as well be. You have to keep
pursuing the golden ring. But, over time, if friends move on, you are still
single and alone, just what is it that has gotten you there? Are you
depressed yet?
Oh well then, I guess there just must be a very high correlation between ugly
people and depression? Even if the correlation is irrelevant, surely
something else must be causing it. Frankly, I don't know any good looking
people who get sex and are depressed. Yes, bummed maybe, but depressed.
Unhappy, yes, but depressed? Granted, some people use sex to "fill the
void", but that's a horse of a different color.
Believe me, I've had thoughts of suicide, black nights, overriding fear and
anxiety, almost losing it, the purposelessness of it all. But, I attribute
it all to lack of intimacy, love, sex, and the cold hard realities of life.
Maybe my chemical imbalances are caused by brain chemistry relating to the
"lack of" as I have said. In which case I should just pack-up and take a
pill? You have added little to the contrary debate my friend!
John Stossel does some pretty good reality stories. Maybe he could do one
concerning uglyness versus depression.
My experience with sex related to depression